i’ve been gone a very long time, but i hope that all of you understand that as the seasons change, my life has moved forward in a fast pace to where tumblr had to be left behind for some time. but i’m here, and still ever as willing to listen and help all of you- anonymous, or not.
Anonymous asked: i kind of like this guy, we're friends, but it's my senior year and i just want to make something happen before it's over and he's really flirty but that's just the kind of person he is and i'm not sure how to kind of be the first to make a real move..i have one class in school with him, but otherwise we don't see each other that much.. could you offer any help?
talk to him more, hang out with him more- basically just spend as much time together as possible and maybe in the midst of all that, feelings will be revealed and you’ll be able to know what to do.
Anonymous asked: So I really like this guy, but I don't know if he likes me or if he's just into hooking up. We've only hung out twice and I've made out with him on both occasions. He's not really touchy feely or anything but he hardly ever flirts with me. He's always joking about something sexual y'know? But we always have such great conversations. We can talk for hours about anything and everything. Heck we were even talking politics and the zombie apocalypse haha but how do I know if he's really into me?
just ask him! i will never get tired of saying that confidence is definitely a very sexy quality that someone can have. unfortunately, some people aren’t very verbal of their feelings, what ever the reason may be. so if you don’t act upon it and ask him, you might never know and you’ll be left wondering.
Anonymous asked: I'm fourteen, is it wrong to love to have virtual sex with strangers?
whether it’s wrong or right, is entirely up to you. i personally don’t think it’s okay, whatsoever. and it’s something i’d definitely educate my daughter upon never doing. you never know who you’re talking to, it may be a very very sick minded man- and it could have bad outcomes.
Anonymous asked: how do I get out of the friend zone. idk if this guy is intrested in dating but.. idk i really dont know
just ask! nothing is sexier than a person with confidence. i know it sounds kind of frightening to do so, but taking the situation by the horns is always the best thing to do. this way, you find out instantly, and you’re able to make the next move.
Anonymous asked: I have really bad anxiety problems with dating, because I always think I'm not good enough for the person. Plus I've been in an abusive relationship. Should I try to be in a relationship again even though I'm really scared about it? The guy that I like is really good about it and doesn't push me, if that helps.
if you feel as though you’re ready, than yes, pursue it. but only if you feel comfortable with being with someone again. like i’ve stated before, never base a new relationship, off of a previous one- because it’s not fair to the new person, and, because everyone is different. if your heart’s in it, proceed.
Anonymous asked: I dated this guy all through high school and we finally got to a point where we could be friends. We always fight and then make up sooner or later though. But after our last fight I haven't heard from him. I even said I was sorry and tried to call him after a couple weeks. He is kinda dumb, selfish and annoying but I'm starting to think part of me misses him? I always forgive him and talk to him again even when I ask him to leave me alone so now I am kinda mad he is ignoring me. Do I let it go?
yes, i suggest to let it go. it’s clearly time to do so if you’ve reached out to him various times, and he has yet to return the same notion. you tried, and you made your move, now it’s all on him. and if he fails to take up that opportunity there is no reason why you should hold yourself back. live your life, make yourself happy, and move on.
Anonymous asked: I am best friends with this girl and she and I hang out all the time. She is gay with a gf right now (long distance relationship) and I am straight, but I think I might like her. When she was a little tispy she told our friend that she and I had been dating for the past two years. And then later mentioned how us sharing food could mean that we could tell people we french kissed. I dont know what to do. We are so close and I dont want to ruin our friendship but could she like me? what should i do
of course there’s the possibility that she may like you. if you find yourself pondering on it so much, just ask! if you two are good friends, she will understand where you’re coming from and why you were lingering on such a question. it’s better to continue with the friendship knowing the facts, then to continue with a wondering mind.
Anonymous asked: I'm a 16 year old girl. I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I've never had a boyfriend and I feel pressured, people have called me a lesbian because I haven't had a boyfriend, even though I know I'm not. It still gets to me. I have trouble at school, I have no one to hang out with, no one to look forward to seeing. I've tried dropping out but I wasn't allowed. I can't converse with anyone at school because they're in the "up there" social classes. Any advice on any of that?
darling, who cares what people think! the things they say will have no affect whatsoever on your persona, because the things they say do NOT define you. think of it this way- if they’re taking the time to make fun of you and throw false accusations your way, they must be some pretty unhappy people, huh? as long as YOU are sure of who you are, that’s all that matters. you’re going to meet great people throughout your life time, and just because school isn’t the best place right now, doesn’t mean it won’t get better, or that it’s the end. try reaching out to people. if you see another lonely person, join them! they may be going through exactly what you are, feeling alone, and all they need is a person to reach out and say something to them. be yourself, learn to love yourself and be happy with who you are- confidence is key after all.